Post 160 | Anticipation is a Great Weapon

Anticipation is something I deal with on a daily basis. Whether it be the anticipation of waiting for a phone call, or the anticipation of going to work the next morning, or the anticipation of whether my girlfriend will be happy today, or the anticipation of whether or not I will get home at a decent time, it just seems to rule my life and unfortunately it is something that I do not know how to control. So I have reached the following conclusion: Anticipation is a great weapon.

It is something that should be used carefully but aggressively. Hell it is used against me, not on purpose, on a daily basis and it tears be apart. I do not think anyone is even purposefully using it against me it is just something that happens all the time. So, why does it work? Well it happens to me in the following steps: Curiosity, wonder, nervousness, confusion, anger, self-loathing. I think the most powerful way to use it is to not let it get past the confusion part. No one wants to be angry or down on themselves.

So let's think of an example... Ok, waiting for the significant other to call. I think this is one of the prime examples and I am actually experiencing this right now, waiting for her to call so I can come over and we can chill together alone and quietly. Anyways this is a good tool that someone (like me) could use to their advantage. Say your significant other asks you to call them back in a little bit. Twenty minutes to a half hour is a little bit in my mind. After that thirty minutes or so their curiosity on why you haven't called has set in. Then they start to wonder and really think about what the possible reasons you have for not calling them back yet, then they become nervous thinking you forgot, or maybe don't care that much and this is when they reached the confused stage. I would say this hits at about the two hour mark. Anytime after that they become angry and then upset and it will quickly turn against you.

BUT if you call in that hour and forty five minutes to two hours and fifteen minutes after they asked you to call them back soon then you will create within them a sense of relief. You could even apologize for not calling them back right away and come up with some excuse, if you are a good liar.

This is just one way anticipation is a good weapon. If I had the brain capacity at the moment I would gladly come up with more examples but this is what I have for now. This has happened to me, but I do not think on purpose and I am thinking of using this in the future just to create a wave of relief and make her happy that I called her back. Thanks for reading.